We learn to think by thinking…

“We learn to think by thinking. We think even as small children, amazingly, without the help of algebra or art history. What happens is that people stop kids from thinking by telling them the truth and failing to have conversations with them that might challenge their beliefs or force them to defend their ideas. We learn to think through intellectual engagement and intellectual combat, not through indoctrination.”
— Roger Schank


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Kids are people. They are good at mindfulness…

Kids are people. They are good at mindfulness like meditation and The Work

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SO BRAVE: decision-making using anecdotes vs data

“So to avoid bravery debate framing, here is a table showing the tradeoffs.” (for decision-making using anecdotes vs data) http://carcinisation.com/2014/09/09/considerations-on-reasoning-by-anecdote/

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Schools will probably eventually wither away. In the meantime…

“Schools will probably eventually wither away. In the meantime, for safety reasons and because the adult world is still so crabby about children, we’ve got to create environments in which kids can grow up. The only environment that makes sense now is one where we treat them the way we treat adults where we let them be free, where we let them pursue happiness and give them liberty, where we let them figure out what they want to do, what their life dream is at any given age, whether they’re 4 or 8 or 16, and where we treat them as equals.”
— Daniel Greenberg, “Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness”

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Choose *YOUR* type of success

“We’ve got one of the most ridiculous and paradoxical ideas at large in modern society – is this idea of work-life balance. In other words, you can be a success at work, and you can be a success at home with your family. … The bad news for listeners is that you can’t.” — ALAIN DE BOTTON

and click the audio link (not the video)

or transcript here: http://www.npr.org/templates/transcript/transcript.php?storyId=240782763

“DE BOTTON: You know, there’s a problem because – well, you know, as anyone who’s ever tried to do anything well and wholeheartedly knows, there’s only so many hours in the day. So we have to make some choices. What do we want to be successful at, and as? Do we want to be a successful parent? Do we want to be successful financially or in terms of reputation, or in terms of changing the world or – you know, there are many, many criteria. And I think we’re not given enough of a guidance by our schools, families, the surrounding environment, at the idea that there’s going to have to be a choice around that word “successful.” So don’t get me wrong. I’m not against success. It’s very important to strive to be successful. But before you do that, I think it’s even more important to try and tighten up the definition of what success might be for you ’cause it’s unlikely to be something that will be, you know, a one-size-fits-all.”

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open badges (open source credentialing) http://www.nytimes.com/2015/03/08/upshot/true-reform-in-higher-education-when-online-degrees-are-seen-as-official.html?emc=eta1&abt=0002&abg=1

Sudbury Valley School has a system of certifications. Generally not age-based, simply based on showing you know how to do something and then given permission to use said thing (microwave, grand piano, certain computers, etc)

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Presence instead of praise

We’ve all heard a million times that things like
– “good job!”
– awards for everything… just for showing up basically
– graduation ceremonies for graduating from pre-school and elementary school
– helicopter parenting generally
are not constructive and can actually lead to narcissism. Or at least looking for more external praise and direction.

I had not heard it framed this way, which I liked:

“So, this year, I am vowing that I won’t let praise replace presence. Whether we are talking about her soccer game or the homemade music box she hopes to create, I want to tune into her stories, engaging her in conversations about the things that are important to her. Instead of responding with “That’s great!” I can ask her how she decided to create a homemade music box, and the materials she thinks are needed. When I remember to ask these questions, she always leans towards me, hungry to open up and share what’s inside her mind.”

seems like this wording “presence vs praise” came from this book

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