A great quotation:
“Someone talked about the pain of losing control. I beg to differ. I think that losing “control” does not mean losing touch with your child. It is not a loss of the relationship at all. On the contrary. Respected children usually respect their parents and other adults because instead of resisting them with all their might they are relaxed with them and thus are open to appreciate their good qualities (as well as their faults). From watching many SVS kids it looks to me that while they do walk their own paths they are also close and open to their parents. One of my favorite things to do is to watch the parents pick up their kids at the end of the day in the parking lot. The genuine mutual joy and warmth between the parents and their kids is beautiful to watch.”
— Hanna Greenberg LINK
This is SO so true. At least in our experience, SVS is in complete alignment with attachment parenting. The way I look at it is that we “shelter” and love up our kids with all our power and might when they are with us and not at school or doing other things. And they then take this energy and unconditional love with them each day as they do their own thing at SVS for a a few hours a day, a few days of the year.
For a more mathematical angle…
– School: 180 days a year, 6 hours per day
– Sleep: 10 hours per day, Awake: 14 hrs per day
– Ignore: transportation time
Calculation of away percentage:
(6 * 180) / (14 * 365) = 21% of awake time
It’s the least I can do as a parent to give my 6-year-old 100% freedom (within a modern-day village) for 21% of his time.
– Sudbury Valley School — the modern-day village
– Children Educate Themselves III: The Wisdom of Hunter-Gatherers by Peter Gray — “…the anthropologists we surveyed were unanimous in indicating that the hunter-gatherer children they observed were free to play most if not all of the day, every day.”