It seems intuitive to me that one of the most important things one can do for your kids is to help them to grow up to feel 1) unconditional love and 2) an internal locus of control — namely, that THEY are in charge of their destiny. That it is not luck or bad-luck or fate, etc.
Interestingly, Peter Gray writes about how the importance of internal (vs external) locus of control in regards to PLAY.
Sudbury Valley School has always seemed the perfect place to work/play (what’s the difference?) on this. So my wife and I have made major decisions–there’s that locus of control again–in our life to enable this. Moving to Framingham, working jobs that pay well enough to afford the very reasonable (but not free) tuition. Etc. Not that schools “raise your kids” either… they are obviously learning a lot by example from me and my spouse.
The Decline of Play and Rise in Children’s Mental Disorders
Children are more anxious and depressed than ever before. Why?
Published on January 26, 2010 by Peter Gray in Freedom to Learn