Family First and Peaceful Parenting
Our kids go to SVS. What’s it’s like for our family is this (and forgive me if I’ve written this down before)… peaceful! It’s peaceful. Not that it is quiet… we tolerate a lot of “wild fun” around the house. But there are things missing that I know are pretty common like homework battles (there is no HW, unless they choose it), getting-up-in-the-morning and get-to-the-bus-stop battles (there is no set time they have to be at school… just the 5 or 5.5 hours the state requires), no tears, none of this stuff.
It’s wonderful and amazing and priceless!
Off to Work!
What I also wanted to say was what it is like for me personally when the kids go off to school. Frankly, it’s exactly the same as I felt when I was a kid and my parents went off to work. Namely, they would go off and do their own thing for “a few” hours a day, they would later come back into the family fold, and we’d maybe hear a bit about their day at work, but maybe not, and that’s it! It’s the same with the kids at school. That’s their time to do exactly as they wish! And we hear bits and pieces of it, but certainly not right when they get back. They are usually physically exhausted, mentally exhausted, and/or starved, because they were too busy to eat! So it’s usually “Hi, welcome home!” until they have recharged their batteries a bit back at the family cave.
Now granted, we try our darndest to do the same (give the kids complete freedom) around the house, but it’s not going to be quite like being independent at school for a few hours a day. At home with Mom and Dad they are expecting a little help and parental care and we’re happy to oblige.
So that’s one of the really great things.
“There’s nothing more exciting than peace!” — Byron Katie
I like that quote because it reminds me of a concept(and forgive me if this seems like a stretch) in technology standards and generally in technology/tools we use. When there is “peace” (standards) at one level, it allows incredible creativity to bloom at a level up on the stack. So in software, the standards of HTTP and HTML have allowed for the creativity of the web to happen. In the home, the peaceful state we experience allows for the creative expression and development of all of us, especially our kids.