Stress may actually be good for you. Stanford psychologist Kelly McGonigal and George Mason professor Todd Kashdan explain the evolving research on pressure.
Not just fight or flight.
“There’s a lot of evidence that you can have a stress response that makes you more caring, not more hostile. You can have a stress response that helps you grow, become stronger and smarter, not necessarily weaker and more exhausted. And we don’t totally know yet all of the determinants of why you have a stress response that helps you thrive while another person that has a stress response that really isn’t helpful,”
And cue the TED Talk:
A study “tracked 30,000 adults over eight years. The study asked participants the simple question: “Do you believe that stress is harmful for your health?” They also tracked death records for these people over the eight-year period. The ironic outcome: people who died from stress died not from stress but from the belief that stress was bad for them. Those who didn’t believe it was harmful experienced no negative effects on their health.”
This is an amazing story about the culture of Netflix and it’s clearly the future of (creative) work for better or worse. No set hours, unlimited time-off, etc. But “ruthless” (or simply more “real”/”honest”) in hiring/firing. Depends on your perspective! “A for effort” doesn’t count.
http://podcatch.com/pages/2233.html (19 minute podcast from NPR’s Planet Money)
NETFLIX: “We’re a _team_, not a family” (Slide 23 of 124)
This reminds me of Byron Katie in “Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life” (BTW, I really recommend the audio cds.. really great!) where in Chapter 6 (pages 84-85) she talks about a boss firing an assistant because she wasn’t doing a good job even though they had been working together for many many years.
“People usually fire themselves when they realize what’s going on.”
IOW, it’s best to be clear and truthful about what is happening with the company — a person’s performance or the lack of a need for them (because of a change in technology or because the company has pivoted in some way)
First World Problem I know… but…. When visiting Disney World or going on a Disney Cruise, get ready for employees, crew members, etc to call your daughter “Princess” 10 times a day. Are they calling my sons “Prince”. Uh no. If it were my daughter, I am not sure what I would do… since I am kinda slow with words when caught of guard with such ridiculousness, I would probably have to prepare an answer for “next time”. I know I am not going to change anything, especially since it is probably Disney company policy, but just something to be aware of if you are a parent who is sick of our kids being treated this way. I am not being “PC”… this just actually feels very wrong to me. Like constant “what a pretty dress!” comments to girls and men calling women “girls”. Uh, no. Same thing.
Examples from Google
Especially ridiculous example:
“Q: We are planning a visit to WDW the first week in May. My 4yr old daughter is not a princess. I don’t want her called that all day. It will upset her. What is the best way to handle this?”
See also: benevolent sexism
That seems like a good term for this.
Luckily my boys… 1) are boys 2) go to Sudbury Valley School where this kind of baloney doesn’t go on. And 3) (if I do say so myself) have somewhat enlightened parents who call this kind of crap out at every turn when we are watching TV or out-and-about. So they are probably pretty aware of it rather than it floating around unseen or un-examined in their brains.
Standardized testing is so 1.0 “On a recent morning at Riverside Elementary School, Alyssa Walter, 7, opened her first-grade “data binder,” in which she recorded progress on reading and math tasks throughout the year.”
“Preparing students for their cubicle lives in an Orwellian future is probably the fairest thing we can do, I guess…”
“There is plenty of research data that says physical activities improve learning, attention and scores. But no one is pushing physical activities as requirement in any school.”
“Well, can’t say this trend isn’t preparing kids for life in the real world, where, as adults, most will be poked, prodded and bullied by number by bosses and HR managers all their lives.”
I really do think traditional schools will eventually move in the direction of “continuous testing” aka data collection. So there is no need for a test… you’ve been collecting the (standardized) data all along. “Big Data”.
At our kids’ Sudbury school the “data” collected I suppose includes:
1. The number of times they add money to their discretionary account (tracking the amount of clay they bought and/or the number of fundraiser lunches they’ve partaken of?)
2. Sign-in and -out times. Since there is no fixed start and stop times, kids write down the time when they arrive and leave. But I don’t think this makes it into a database actually. Just for the attendance clerk to note people who are not attending. It also helps people at school know who is there. For instance, if it is 10:15am (or 4:15pm) and you can’t find Ansel, you might first check to see if he has signed-in (or out) for the day or not.
3. J.C. violations. Not much to learn there…
4. If you look at the list on the side of the microwave you can see the “data” of who is certified to use it. But no dates. Darn! Still that’s something I suppose!
I’ve started a “Negative attitudes about school” youtube playlist. If you know of any videos to add to my list, let me know! https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLgujPLkhFHkxu3-ZhfaunkGIH9TdqBsD7
This is the EXACT OPPOSITE of how my kids feel about school. But that’s because they go to http://sudval.org/ . Instead they are:
1. Happy when school starts in September.
2. Sad when it stops in June.
3. A bit bummed when there is a snow day.
Sure they enjoy a fun dumping of snow every now and then, but generally they really like going to school because they get to do their own thing for 5 or 6 hours without their parents bugging them. Not that we bug them much at home, but kids like to do their own thing. Even 4-year-olds!
“Orange you glad first grade is over?” Cause ‘ya know… school sucks.
“We learn to think by thinking. We think even as small children, amazingly, without the help of algebra or art history. What happens is that people stop kids from thinking by telling them the truth and failing to have conversations with them that might challenge their beliefs or force them to defend their ideas. We learn to think through intellectual engagement and intellectual combat, not through indoctrination.”
— Roger Schank
“So to avoid bravery debate framing, here is a table showing the tradeoffs.” (for decision-making using anecdotes vs data) http://carcinisation.com/2014/09/09/considerations-on-reasoning-by-anecdote/